Whether you love or hate Valentine’s Day, it’s hard to escape the endless stream of heart-shaped balloons, boxes of chocolates, and romantic TikTok and IG Reels flooding your feed. Valentine’s Day is a day that celebrates love and relationships. If you’re alone on Valentine’s Day, it doesn’t have to be a day of sadness. It can actually be pretty great to be single on Valentine’s Day. Don’t roll your eyes at us just yet. Keep reading and we’ll share how to enjoy being single on Valentine’s Day. Whether you’re looking for self date ideas to be your own Valentine or things to do with friends on Valentine’s Day, we’ve got you!

Tip #1: Spend Quality Time with your Best Self!

Between your job, family obligations, catching up with friends, meal prep and workouts – when was the last time you had quality you time? Take Valentine’s Day for yourself. Being single on Valentine’s Day gives you the opportunity to spend some quality time with yourself. This is the perfect Valentine’s Day self love activity. Take the time to relax, recharge, and reflect on what’s important to you. Take time to reflect on how far you have come and the areas of your life in which you’re proud. You have done a lot of work to get where you are and that is something to celebrate!

You can even take it a step further and reflect on what you’re looking for in a relationship. You may be in a season of self discovery, healing, or great growth. It works to your advantage to be able to reflect on oneself in moments of solitude. It is in our alone time that we have the opportunity to analyze our decisions and behaviors in an effort to align with our hearts desires. Appreciate it while you can, it won’t last forever.

Tip #2: Spend Time With Friends.

You may be asking yourself, is Valentine’s Day only for couples? Valentine’s Day isn’t just for all you lovebirds out there. Whether it’s romantic love or platonic love, Valentine’s Day is a celebration of the love you do have in your life. Friendship is the foundation of any great relationship so don’t forget to nurture your tribe by spending time with your favorite friends.

Valentine’s Day causes stress and anxiety to the best of us. Yes, even your “strong” and “independent” friends are stressed out by Cupid and why he hasn’t struck them with his arrow (wink). So, don’t be shy – you may have to be the one in your circle of single friends to initiate plans. Invite your friends out. Whatever you do, just make sure it’s something you enjoy doing together.

What are group things to do on Valentine’s Day if you are single? Bowling, movies, paint and sip, dancing, comedy show, karaoke, game night. We could go on and on.

If you prefer to stay in and out of the way of overloaded Valentine’s Day themed decorations and menus at your favorite restaurants, then host a Valentine’s Day singles party. Spoil your guests to that home cooked meal you’ve been wanting to try but haven’t because you’re avoiding cooking for one. Well, now’s your chance to invite your tribe and enjoy the evening together.

Tip #3: Indulge in Self-Care!

Isn’t this the same thing as spending quality time with your best self? Well, not really. Quality time is all about self-reflection and nurturing your heart and mind. Self-care is all about how to treat, and what to get yourself for Valentine’s Day. It’s the external things to splurge on that make you happy. We’re talking clothes (treat yo self), massages (treat yo self), mimosas (treat yourself), buying yourself flowers on Valentine’s Day (absolutely treat yo self), and whatever else your pockets can afford.

We say go ahead and treat yourself on Valentine’s Day. But do put a limit on how much you treat yourself to – inflation is hot right now (even if your love life isn’t 😂).

Tip #4: Give Back.

If you still have some money left in the bag after you’ve treated yourself, you can give back! What’s your favorite charity or community organization you can contribute money or small items to? Giving back to the community can have many positive benefits. People who give back often experience personal growth and increased self-esteem. Seeing the direct effect of your efforts, whether they’re big or small, can be incredibly rewarding.

If you can’t donate money, then donate your time to a community center or local food bank! Sharing your time with others gives you a sense of purpose and helps you feel more connected to your community. Giving back can help build relationships with others in the community. It can also be a great way to show your gratitude and appreciation for all that you have. And you never know – your future bae may be spending Valentine’s Day at the same community center you’re at.

Tip #5: Start Something New!

What is the one thing you’ve been wanting to start this year? We know it’s only month two of the year, but did anyone else feel like January lasted for an entire season already? Well, February is a great time to check-in and have a real talk with yourself. Have you started reading that best seller-book that’s been on your list for months? Attended a yoga class at the studio you already paid 10 classes for? How about decluttering from all those black Friday deals and holiday gifts? Put on a good movie, get ahead of Spring cleaning, and ditch the dirt holding you back from a calm and serene home.

Voilà. Don’t let being single on Valentine’s Day get you down. We get it, it can be tough to know what to do when you’re lonely on Valentine’s Day. But we gave you the blueprint on what to do if you don’t have a Valentine. Embrace being single and use it as an opportunity to enjoy yourself or celebrate other people or causes you care about. Who knows, it may be your last single girl Valentine’s Day or single guy Valentine’s Day.

And remember it’s about the journey, not the destination. Start with a foundation of love for yourself and the intention to celebrate proudly regardless of your relationship status. When you are grateful for where you are, you resonate with an energy that is attractive. So the more confident you are that you are worthy of love and open to it, the more you will see it naturally return to you. And it just might come back with your mate!

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